Growing Moral Sickness in the Society

We often hear comments that Indian media has become bold and pervasive. While this may be true, one major observation is often understated, i.e. the media is overwhelmingly focusing on crime reporting. If we pickup any newspaper of the 80s and compare it with today, this point will emerge out glaringly. Today’s newspapers start and end with reports of innumerable episodes of crime and the vast majority would be against women, which is a reflection of growing moral sickness in our society. Indians were traditionally known for their moral and ethical conduct. However, this image has taken a severe beating in the recent years. Since the Delhi gang rape has forced the society to introspect, I thought it prudent to shed some light on the causes of this sickness.

Values are the fundamental propelling force behind overt and covert behavior of human beings and collective values of individuals give shape to societal values. Values provide the sense of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ which guide human behavior. Today, if we are witnessing growing incidents of crime and violence, without ambiguity, the root cause is the ‘value system’ of individuals and that of the society. The fact is, values take shape in the formative years of one’s life and it gets inculcated through social interactions within and outside the family. Since children in their formative years spend more time at home, undoubtedly the rot starts within the family. This brings to fore the conduct of elders in the family and society.

Collapse of Joint Family System. The joint family system provided the basis for transfer of moral values from one generation to the next. Even though there was erosion caused due to factors such as exposure to other cultures and traditions, the erosion was much gradual because of the strong familial sanctions against immoral behavior. However, strong desire for freedom and struggle for survival has forced people to move out of the joint families and thus, the young ones have lost connect with the older generation. This has also led to apathy and crime against senior citizens.

Consumerism and Double Income Families. Exposure to cultures of affluent societies of the west and Indian urban lifestyle has forced almost every Indian to chase material wealth. This has led both Partners to work and in many cases work for long hours to earn that extra bit. While such families may be materially well off, they lose sight of the young ones. There is hardly any time for moral upbringing of the children, while the entire focus is on giving the best material comfort to them. As children grow up, most families put enormous pressure on them to become capable of earning wealth for better life ahead and thus the children start believing this to be the true purpose of life. Consumerism fuels this fire even more, as success is measured in terms of material wealth, how much ever ill gotten it may be.

Educational System. Indian educational system produced one of the best scientists of the yesteryears and yet the system was known for inculcating value based education and acted as reinforcement to the values inculcated at home by elders. Post independence, the Indian polity and administration took away this advantage by systematically ruining the traditional educational system and mindlessly commercializing education to the extent that ‘value based education’ has now remained only in the admission brochures of educational institutions. The performance of schools and students are measured based on academic results and this has taken away every scope for moral and physical development. Every student lives with a singular dream of making it to the IITs/NITs/Medical colleges.  Parents go out of their way to get that extra money, whichever way, and push the children even more into the well of darkness.

Failures & Frustration. It is obvious that all aspirants cannot end up in IIT/NIT. While some will succeed, most will fail. Parents who have been enterprising in their venture of earning wealth may push their children back into race through the capitation route and it is the left out, failed children of our society who have never been exposed to morality, neither at home nor at school, whose parents have also let them down by not being successful in earning wealth, will fight for material success in ways other than moral. Of these, a few tough ones fight back, some weak hearted ones end themselves and many morally bankrupt become criminals. Thus, Indians are in a never ending race for material wealth as this has come to be the only ‘Dharma’ of our society.

In sum, while we may endlessly on how the situation can be reversed, I am quite skeptical. Perhaps, the only way we may reverse this is by strengthening the educational system with strong moral value content which is easier said than done, given the commercial environment that we all live in. At the same time, elders need spiritual orientation and introspection, which again is Utopian given the fact that even spiritualism has been commercialized to a large extent.  

Is There a Case for Capital Punishment for Rapists?

Gender bias in our society is beyond contest and it starts right at homes, not necessarily in poor but also in the rich and mighty. While we know how and why it happens, it is important to consider the psychological origin and fall out of this bias. Humans are social animals or in other words animals that live within the social norms. For all those who watch animal kingdom would know that the male species often enforce their dominance by subjugating the female counterparts and the best display of subjugation is having sex - consensual or otherwise. This is nature and no one has taught this to the animals. Thus, the behavior of man towards women is not really strange, as he is part of the animal kingdom. However, it is the ‘social norms’ which compel him to behave more soberly than animals in Jungle or otherwise. India being a patriarchal society has always preached inferior status for women and thus the social norm itself is at odds with women’s cause. Obviously enough, man is behaving like true animal as the shackles of society is either missing or weak.

A simple fact is, if mankind had a choice they would enjoy behaving this way in the open because that is their true nature. In the absence of strong social norms, the other alternative could be fear of law which can hold them back. However, over the years, flawed investigation and prosecution have sent a loud and clear message that one can easily get away in this country. The fact that every 22 minutes a woman is raped and the conviction rate is just about 0.1% says it all. Therefore, the social norms on the one hand are weak and the law has failed the women miserably - no wonder the monstrous behavior is getting encouraged.

While one may shoo away any examples from the Arab world, it is important to understand the underlying belief behind such harsh punishments executed in public. While the urge for dominance over women may be involuntary, the method of gratifying this urge is always voluntary and voluntary behaviors can only be modified using Operant or Instrumental conditioning. In this type of learning an individual's behavior is modified by its consequences. Depending upon the consequences; the behavior may change in form, frequency, or strength. Obviously so, the consequences of rape or any crime in the Arab world, are very harsh and this deterrent causes operant conditioning of voluntary behavior. The law has in place ‘life imprisonment’ for rape in our country. But how many have so far been convicted? We may have death penalty for rape but unless the conviction rate goes up and justice is meted out quickly, the desired conditioning effect on the society will not take place and it may instead act as positive reinforcement of such behavior and the crime rate will go up.

Therefore, the case is not as much in favor of death penalty Vs life sentence, it is actually about fast trial and high conviction rate. Firstly, such offence must be made non bailable and the police must crack down and file charge sheet on a time bound manner. Since behavior of police is also a big question mark and needs conditioning by consequences, a stringent code of conduct must be put in place and all erring cops must be discharged from service. The judiciary must also be held accountable. There must be fast track courts and a time frame for delivering justice. Finally, in such cases severe punishments, not necessarily death, must be meted out more liberally so as to have conditioning effect on the society at large.

Whose Country is it Anyway?

Since the media these days majorly focuses on large scale corruption brought to fore by activists like Arvind Kejriwal and others, we seem to have completely forgotten the small timers altogether. Here is a true tale of modern India. 

 

Recently, I travelled with my son to Mumbai and the distance from my home to the airport is about 22 Kms. The unreasonable taxi fares forced me to take the public transport system after decades. I also wanted my son to experience the public utilities, which he was hardly exposed to. We boarded the star bus from our residence. We had to get off half way and take another bus. I presented Rs 30/- and the conductor gave us a ticket of Rs 18/- and returned Rs. 10 and in case of any checking, he told us to say we boarded from a place which was a few kilometers ahead of our actual boarding point. All this happened in a jiffy and as a matter of routine. It took me some time to realize what had actually happened – I effectively paid Rs 20/- instead of Rs 22 and the conductor transferred Rs. 18/- to the state and pocketed Rs. 2/-. 

 

On realizing, I asked him to return Rs. 2/- and he looked absolutely flabbergasted. He then started hauling at me for not giving him exact change. According to him, I must be grateful as he was helping me instead of asking me to get off the bus for not tendering exact change. I was dismayed while he went ahead regardless. As I watched the others, I realized that this is a normal practice and almost all regular commuters do this. They know what to say when surprise checks are held and as a matter of routine the public and the conductor are cheating the state. 

 

My son, a class 12^th student, was perplexed and asked me to explain. While I explained to him what was going on, I also said that these are aberrations and not the norm. However, this happened once again in our second leg and this time we pushed the conductor on the back foot, gave him exact change and demanded correct tickets. Again two days later, when we returned back, we faced similar situation on both the legs but we were armed to corner the conductors. While we may have come clean, my son concluded that this is not an aberration but a norm and I was left with a bad taste for I had to get into altercation with a bus conductor to be fair and honest, while most go on regardless. 

 

I wonder, whose country is it anyway?  I am glad my son qualified in the interview and the medicals to join the merchant navy. Hopefully, he will never have to go through such embarrassments to be a honest citizen in this country. Even better, I wish he never comes back to this country ever.

 

An epilogue

 

I was in Delhi recently and took a bus from University to Hazrat Nizammudin railway station. The conductor was a hansom young man from Haryana with a very pleasing personality which forced me to draw a comparison between the conductors of Nagpur and Delhi. I presented Rs 100/- for a ticket of Rs 15/- and offered to give change of Rs 5/- in addition, to make mathematics a little easier. He declined and gave me the ticket and Rs 50/- with Rs 35/- as balance written in the reverse of the ticket. I was all along concious not to forget the balance and as I reached my destination, I presented the ticket back to him and he promptly returned Rs 35/- and I thought he returned the original ticket too. I was in a hurry to alight and once down and comfortable, I saw the ticket carefully to realize that he handed over another ticket of Rs 5/- along with the balance money of Rs 35/-. I was shocked but could do nothing as the bus vanished into the heavy morning traffic of Delhi.

 

This is India!!!!!         

Futility of Education in India

I was recently traveling to Bhopal and found myself in the company of three young boys of around 23 years. They were happy among themselves playing pranks, watching videos etc. They had almost all the gizmos like high range mobiles, I-pods, I pads etc which children of their own age would crave for. They did notice the presence of an elderly person amidst them and maintained decorum and were respectful. Being a teacher who loves the company of students, half way through my journey, I inquired them about their education. Incidentally, we turned out to be alumni of the same institution as they left college after their first year education. Concerned, I asked for reasons and prompt came the reply, “what is the use of this education, when postgraduates are driving auto rickshaws for their living”. Thank god, I did not disclose my profession to them.

The boys went on to tell me their story. After their 12^th in a school, they joined B.Com like many other students in our country. In college, there was no serious education happening. Classes are rarely held, there is no control and many don’t come at all. Those who come disturb the class more than learning and the teachers are not concerned. Many of them read exam oriented notes available in the market and pass the university exams. In the university exams, marks are proportionate to the number of sheets one writes and in many cases students start with their answer, digress on to the write story of a recently seen movie, and finish with the answer and yet get good marks because they fill in more sheets. Then the question is what to do after such B.com? Either do M.Com or MBA. M.com has no value and MBA has only perceived value. One ends up spending at the least 3 to 4 lakhs to do an MBA and then some of them get a job of Rs. 10,000/- PM which hurts.

I was curious to know, what they do for their living and there came another prompt reply. They struck a deal with their respective parents to lend them Rs. 6 lakhs each, which is the rough cost the parents would have incurred in educating them up to MBA. They learnt mobile repairing from one of the vocational training institutions and started their own mobile repairing shops. The most enterprising of the three earn about Rs 40,000 a month and the other two earn in the range of 25 to 30 thousand. They are their own bosses and all three want to upscale their operations to include selling of handsets which they hope to do within the next 2 years. They do not take any money from their parents instead buy their parents and other siblings an occasional gift. They have repaid a major portion of the loan taken from their parents. They smoke and drink a beer occasionally, but all from their own earnings.

On the other hand, I had met a young engineer who was interested to join the defence services. He had his own story too. He was fairly bright in studies but could not balance between IIT/AIEEE and CBSE. Hence, did not get rank in IIT/AIEEE and also scored average marks (72%) in the boards and was left with no choice but to join a local engineering college. Finished engineering without a backlog but did not get any placement and is now looking at any government job including the ones in the Defence. Has also applied for group 2 job and is completely frustrated. Parents took a loan of 6 lakhs to educate him and he is jobless with the EMIs staring at the family.

Unfortunately, he is not the only one. Being an author of a guide on defence selection, I do receive several desperate calls from across the country. My mobile number has become a kind of a helpline for many such distraught students. The worst part is, many of them come from humble families and the son is the only hope of their family. Most of them, even after finishing 16 years of education, are unable to speak in English and there is no way they can be helped to join the defence services. Most private engineering and management institutions make all kind of promises and project a bright future to the innocent parents and aspiring students, knowing very well that the student does not have the right base to become an employable engineer or manager. Once the seats are full, the management does not bother at all and the end result is absolute frustration. Some of them in their desperation to get the numbers, even offer fee discounts and once admitted, go back on their words and force the money out. I have seen desperate parents who have been victimized by greedy institutional owners.

Listening to these stories, I wonder at the futility of the present day education in India. I admire the three young boys who refused to study more and instead got themselves trained to start their independent business. Is there a lesson for all the students, parents and the educationists? Don’t we have enough opportunities for small and micro businesses in a country of 1 billon plus?

India Stinking - Part 2

Many of my friends tell me that I have turned cynical as all my writings are about negativity in the society. As I ponder over this remark, I feel each of us face these situations; it is just that I write about them vociferously while others suffer this passively. Most of my readers and followers are young citizens of our country and I want them to feel the misery of this generation and take a proactive stand towards changing this society.

I may sound cynical once again, but here is another true account of the treachery one has to face in this country. I parked the entire arrears of the 6^th Central Pay Commission in a property in Bhopal in May 2009. It was ideally located next to the cantonment, away from the hustle and bustle of the city. It was a Delhi based company (Niho Constructions Limited) which was developing the project and I should have expected it all. But, the greed of owning a peaceful residence close to the cantonment towards the end of my long career in the Defence, dragged me in and along with me some 40 service officers invested in the project. The documentation was quite elaborate and included a penalty clause in case of delay in giving possession  beyond 24 months and we thought it to be very safe. The project worked well till Feb 2011 and suddenly the work stopped. My house progressed till internal plaster and it stands still thereafter and I have already paid 90% of the agreed price. The agreed 24 months expired in May 2011 and gradually all the employees started leaving the project and the entire office now looks deserted with one peon and a security guard on the rolls and one executive from Delhi making an occasional visit. I retired in Apr 2011 and thought of living in this house but had to shift to Nagpur finally.

Initially I tried writing letters to the company with no response. Finally, sent a legal notice in Aug 11 and filed a case in the consumer court in Oct 11. As of any other consumer forum in this country the case is going on and on. The other customers in Bhopal approached the collector, police commissioner and even the chief minister. I met the magistrate personally once and gave a written complaint. I even wrote a letter to the chief secretary of the state, copy to chief minister. But none of this could move the state machinery while the company was still booking phase 2 of the scheme. I approached the local print media to cover the story and to my utter shock, the PR agent conveyed the reluctance of the print media as this company gives them advertisement business. Finally, I went all the way to Delhi to meet the Directors of the Company but could meet only a lower level employee who claimed ignorance. The matter stands at that and I look towards the sky and ask for justice. Is there anything else that a common man could do to get justice in this country!!

I know of a senior citizen who won a civil suit in Mar 2011 and the honorable court ordered the party to pay up Rs 2 lakhs to the senior citizen within a month. You may be surprised to know that nothing really happened till date because the party has manage  not to received the court order and the court staff has not served the summons till date. The point is, even if the consumer court or any other court gives a verdict in favour, the implementation of the order is next to impossible. It is the bureaucracy that had squarely failed this country in every way. Do I have a case to be cynical!!!